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Finding Real Happiness

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Happiness is important to the human condition. After all, nobody wants to live their life as a miserable person! We want to feel positive, loved, appreciated, and satisfied with a smile in our hearts. Despite its importance, happiness is hard to fully describe and understand. Different people and different cultures define happiness in different ways. Each person has a different method for seeking happiness. Despite the differences, we have this one thing in common: we all seek happiness. We are restless people trying to find rest.


Here is the tough question: If happiness is so important to us, why is it so hard to get? Why doesn’t happiness last?


This may surprise you, but God knows how important happiness is to you. He wants you to seek real joy. Real joy is different from happiness, and the difference is discussed in the videos, below.  


Because this world is broken, because we are broken, the nature of happiness is temporary. The word “happiness” comes from the word “happenstance”. Happenstance is rooted in chance and circumstances. It literally means “my circumstances lined up perfectly by chance, or by accident”. Our feelings of happiness are based on our circumstances lining up in our favor. But there’s a problem: our world is broken, and we are broken. Good circumstances are only temporary. Eventually the buzz wears off, the good feelings disappear, and we are left trying to find them once again.    


In all this, Satan remains our eternal enemy. He is trying to deceive us, mislead us, and get us to chase shadows that cannot satisfy. He does his best to distract you from the source of real joy (God) and get you focused on things that are empty.   


Satan’s Lies


Satan’s lies are very effective. He’s very good at twisting the truth to confuse us and cause us to chase after shadows. Here are some of his lies:


  • Your happiness is more important than God. In fact, finding happiness should be priority # 1.


  • God is not interested in your happiness. God wants to turn you into a sour-faced grinch who never has fun. If you want real happiness, it’s best to leave God behind.


  • God’s “truth” will only tie you down and keep you from doing what you want. Reject it. Making your own path is the best way to be happy.


  • You belong to yourself. It’s your life, your body, and your choice. Create your own truth and live however you want, then you’ll be happy.


  • Live for what you can see and touch. That’s what matters.


His lies work incredibly well. If I were to stop ten people on the street and ask them the secret to true happiness, I bet zero of them would say “God and His truth”. Instead, we’ve been deceived to think God is the enemy of our happiness.


Satan’s lies are the opposite of the truth! God is the creator of joy. Love and joy flow from God like warmth and light beam from the sun on a summer afternoon. His ways and His truth bring the fullness of life, love, joy, and peace. Meanwhile, Satan’s lies trick us into endlessly chasing our own tail, running in circles trying to grasp shadows. How tiresome!  Please take a few moments to watch these videos and consider their truth.    

Filling Our Infinite Void


Everyone seeks happiness, but sooner or later we all come to realize it’s a frustrating pursuit. Any happiness we may find is temporary and it soon gives way to familiar frustrations and empty feelings. Even though there are many good things on this earth, the happiness we seek can't be found in these things. We have unsatisfied longings deep in our soul. We hear this longing in David Foster Wallace’s words:


“We’re all lonely for something we don’t know we’re lonely for.” (Infinite Jest, 1053, note 281)


What does the failure to find lasting happiness show us? It shows the infinite void inside of us can only be filled by something that is infinite... it can only be filled by God. All of the Bible speaks this truth: only through God is “fullness of joy” and “pleasure forevermore” truly found. Apart from Him, nothing will bring satisfaction on earth. Only through God will our restless, happiness-seeking souls find rest. Only the infinite God can fill our infinite void.

Never forget that God created you to be eternal - an eternal soul and spirit that lives in a temporary body. You had a beginning but you will never have an end. How long do we have on earth... 80, maybe 90 years? Then what? Eternity. A million years in eternity makes our 80 years on earth seem very small by comparison. It's all ahead of us. Eternity with God is infinite joy. Eternity without God is infinite misery. He allows you to choose. Please read "My Needs are Real".

“Oh God, You make known to me the path of life. You fill me with joy in your presence, with eternal pleasures at your right hand.” (Psalm 16:11)


“Yes, my soul finds rest in God; my hope comes from Him.” (Psalm 62:5)

"Whoever lives life for themselves will lose it, but whoever gives their life to Me will find it." (Jesus, Matthew 16:25)

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